When people talk about being unfaithful, your mind instantly jumps to the idea of cheating, but it doesn’t always mean that. In fact, there are many things that someone could do, which would be considered, as being unfaithful and some of them might shock you!
1. White lies
Okay, so you know that it’s wrong to lie right, but a little white lie can’t hurt, can it? The simple answer to that is yes, if you have a reason to lie about something then you are being unfaithful to your spouse. A marriage should have an open and truthful dialogue at all times, as soon, as you introduce lies, even if they are only small, you are asking for trouble. A marriage’s foundations are built on trust and the one sure way to break trust is to be caught out when lying.
2. Flirting with intention
It is okay to flirt occasionally, but only when there is no intention to pursue anything further. Flirting with intention when you are married isn’t okay to do, ever. Even if you don’t pursue the person you are flirting with, you did have the intention and that is just as bad. Imagine how your spouse would feel if they ever found out about those intentions and imagine how you would feel if it was the other way round.
3. Dressing to impress
There is nothing wrong with wanting to feel confident and for many people; a nice outfit can help boost the image that you have of yourself. If you want to dress up then you shouldn’t be letting anything hold you back, but you have to consider the reasoning behind you wanting to. If it is for your own self confidence then that’s fine, if it’s for your spouse then it is fine, but if you are dressing to impress someone else then this is essentially being unfaithful to your spouse. As a person who is married, you shouldn’t have the desire for others to want you.
4. Lying about who you are with
If you are spending time with a person that you know your spouse doesn’t like, or wouldn’t like should they know about them, then you really shouldn’t be lying about it, especially if there really isn’t anything going on. If your spouse finds out that you have been lying, then they will not believe that the meetings were innocent and will accuse you of being unfaithful. If you know that the person you are with will cause arguments between you are your spouse, then you should really consider the value of seeing the person in question.
5. Avoiding the question
If your spouse is asking you about somebody or something that you have done, then avoiding the questions is just, as bad, as lying about them. A lot of people think that if they don’t answer the questions directly then they will be able to escape the blame of an indiscretion, but this is simply untrue and can cause a lot of problems down the line. If you find yourself not wanting to tell the truth, then you need to consider why that is.
6. Feelings for another
You may not have touched another person since you got married, but that doesn’t mean that you haven’t been unfaithful. In fact, you can cheat on a person emotionally just, as easily, as you might cheat on a person physically. The thing is that emotional cheating can often be something that really does cause marriages to crash and burn, because you have created a bond with another person and that’s something, which is hard to break.
7. Sending XXX rated messages
The digital world can be a confusing place, as the lines between reality and fiction become blurred into one cramped little screen. The important thing to remember though is whilst you might have not even have met the person you are speaking to, the conversations you are having with this person are real and real feelings can occur from these situations.
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8. Sending revealing images
The same rules apply as X rated messages. It doesn’t matter whether you have intentions to meet these people or not, it isn’t okay to send revealing images of yourself. You should try putting yourself into your spouse’s shoes and imagine how they might feel, should they find out about it.
9. Not disclosing the fact that you are married
You don’t have to tell every person you meet that you are married, but should the situation come up when it’s appropriate to tell a person, then you should. If you deliberately hide the fact that you are married, then you need to ask yourself why you have done this and what intentions you have for doing it. If you find yourself hiding the fact then you are married, then that probably means that you have intentions in pursuing the person in question and that isn’t okay.
10. Take your wedding band off
When you took your vows you promised to love and cherish you spouse forever and to symbolize that commitment you exchanged rings. These rings should be seldom taken off. If you find yourself taking off your wedding ring for nights out or because you don’t want a certain person to see it, then you again, need to consider what that is. What would you feel like if your spouse took their wedding band off to go on a night out? Would it make you feel insecure?
11. Two way street
Whenever you do something, you should always consider whether you would be happy with your spouse doing it. If you wouldn’t be comfortable with them doing it, then you probably should be doing it either.
If you want to be faithful to your partner, then you need to make sure that you only have eyes for them. It’s okay to occasionally have a wondering thought, but if these become frequent and you find yourself with intentions or in situations that you need to lie or hide, then you might be being unfaithful without you even knowing that you are.