When you got married, it was probably the happiest day of your life. You two were so in love, you can barely remember who was at the wedding because all you could see was your fabulous groom. You knew you would always be in love and this truly was till death do you part.
Then, you found out that your husband was seeing another woman. Not only that, but he says he’s in love with her and not you. What happened? How could your perfect marriage go so terribly wrong? We are going to tell you the 10 main reasons that married men end up in love with someone else. The truth might hurt, ladies, but this is information you need to know.
1. Men Love to Play
No matter how good your marriage might be, there is no denying that the everyday life of work, kids, sleep, and back to work, gets boring. Men like excitement, men love the chase, and, perhaps most of all, men like to play. Men will seek out other women who are not encumbered with children or those who make time in their schedule for fun. He is probably taking this woman to ball games, playing video games in her apartment, and dancing the night away. If you don’t make time for fun and games in your marriage, your man will look elsewhere for it and fall in love with someone else.
2. Men Want to Make Women Happy
The truth is, men live to make women happy. They want their woman to feel content, happy, and satisfied in bed. When a woman shows her man that she is constantly unhappy, and he doesn’t feel like he can fix it, he will look for a woman he can bring happiness to. Too many times, wives nag their husbands, are overly critical of them, and rarely tell them how happy they make them if every little thing isn’t perfect. When this happens, men will seek out women they can please and they often end up falling in love with someone else.
3. Men Hate Helpless Women
While a woman in need temporarily ( “Can you fix my car”) makes a man feel useful and proud, the woman who is constantly helpless and can’t seem to do anything for herself will eventually turn a man off. Men want to please you and feel needed, but only to a certain point. Asking him to unclog the kitchen sink is fine, but crying day after day that your life is a mess and can he make dinner, do the dishes, put the kids to bed because you just can’t deal with it, is sure to send your man to another woman’s arms.
4. Men Love Sex
If you didn’t already know, men live for sex. If they aren’t doing it, they are thinking about it. Sometimes, things get bogged down in a marriage and sex is put on the back burner. This is always a mistake because when the right woman comes along and begins to give your man all the sex he wants, he is certain to take advantage of it. Many married men will find frequent sex leads to them falling in love with someone else.
5. Men Love the Simple Life
Unlike women, men are fairly simple creatures. They don’t want drama, they aren’t interested in who is wearing the latest fashion, and they don’t want a complicated schedule. Men want to go to work, have some fun, relax, enjoy a sports game, and have sex. Women who complicate their husband’s life by expecting them to entertain guests every weekend, go out frequently or expect them to run the kids here and there while you are getting your hair and nails done will find that their husbands seek out women who make life easy for them.
6. Men Crave Excitement
Having sex in the missionary position every Wednesday and Saturday with the lights out, eating dinner at your mother’s house every Sunday and going to the beach every vacation gets old very quickly. Men love to be stimulated, both physically and mentally. If you don’t provide that, another woman will and your husband will fall in love with someone else.
7. Men Want to Feel Safe
Women look at men as big, strong pillars of stone, but even men need a place where they can talk about what they fear, plans for the future, maybe even their plans for self improvement and not be ridiculed. Men have a soft and vulnerable place way deep inside of themselves and they long to find a place where they feel safe exploring it. If you ridicule a man or tell him he is weak or a coward when he opens up to you, you will find that this is one of the quickest ways to make him fall in love with someone else who gives him a safe place to land.
8. Men Have Fragile Egos
Your husband wants to feel like your hero. When you do need to criticize him, you need to do so lovingly, and then praise him when he tries to change. He wants to please you, but if you constantly put him down, why should he even try? Your husband will look for his encouragement elsewhere if you don’t provide it.
9. Men Need Attention
While they might not need the same type of attention that women do, they still want it from their wives. If you are glued to your soap opera every evening or if you can’t put down your cell phone at the dinner table long enough to listen to your husband tell you about his day, you are setting yourself up for a world of hurt. Your husband deserves your attention and if you don’t give it to him, he will get it from another woman and fall in love with someone else faster than you can imagine.
10. Men Want to Win
This is why sports are important to most men. They want to be a part of a winning team. Men need to feel like they are accomplishing something and that they are winners! Many men cheat because they feel like no matter what they do, they can’t win. If he stays home and helps with the housework, do you tell him how bad the yard looks? And when he spends all weekend working on the yard, do you tell him he’s a bum because he doesn’t help with the housework? When your husband can’t win at home, he will look for another game that he can win.
Men who fall in love with someone else almost never do so because the other woman is younger or prettier. It all has to do with how a woman makes him feel. Make your husband feel like he’s king of the castle and top dog in the bedroom, and he will always be in love with you.