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Make Him Miss You

How To Make Him Miss You – Language of Desires

Why is it that when a girl and a guy break up, the girl spends weeks missing him, but he seems to move on within a millisecond? It isn’t fair. It isn’t right. Why should he get to walk away and instantly start to rebuild his life, when you’re stuck at home wishing that he’d call? He shouldn’t. You need to do something about it. You need to make him miss you, just as much as you’re missing him, but how can you do that? How can you make a guy miss you, when it was him who broke up with you in the first place?

Cut off everything

When you’re missing a person, it can be easy to fall into a self-deprecating trap of giving in whenever the person you are missing gets in touch. Guys know this. They know that you’re missing them and they know that you’d do anything and everything you could to see them. This makes you an easy target. It makes you the girl they call, when they’ve failed to score elsewhere and you really, really, really, need to stop being that girl.

If you want him to miss you, if you want him to realize what he’s walked away from, then you need to make him realize what he’s given up and you’re not doing that, if you’re still giving him the goods after he’s ended the relationship. No, you need to think of it like this, if he broke up with you, then he broke up with all of the great benefits that being with you came with. If you think that letting him into your bed will help to make him miss you, then you’re wrong. The only thing happening after that is his respect for you depleting.

Be casual

Sure, you miss him and whenever he calls it’s the highlight of your day. You don’t want him to know that though. You don’t want him to know that you’re missing him. You don’t want him to know that you’ve spent the last three days stalking his online profiles to try and see what he’s been doing since the two of you split. No, instead, you need to act causal. You need to show him that leaving your life has had no negative impact on you. You need to make him question whether he’s made the right decision, without forcing the question down his throat.

Don’t be cold

It can be easy, when trying to be casual to fall into the trap of seeming cold instead. You don’t want this to happen. You don’t want to sound bitter when he gets in touch, you just don’t want to sound overjoyed either. You need to think of your partner as a casual acquaintance. He’s someone your happy to be hearing from, but you have no real, active involvement in anything they’re getting in touch to talk to you about.

If you do fall into the trap of being cold, then it can really push a guy away. If he’s getting in touch with you, then it means you’ve been on his mind. This is a solid foundation for making things right between the two of you again, but if you’re acting like a cold ice warrior, then it’s only going to confirm to him that he made the right decision in leaving you.

The best thing to aim for is friendly and aloof. You don’t want to make it seem like a big deal that you’re both talking, but you do need to subtly let him know that you’re not going to turn into some crazed woman who’s plotting to burn all his clothes, before he can come and collect them.

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Focus on yourself

If you want someone, anyone to miss you, then you need to have something worth missing. It’s not easy to hold onto your entire self, when in a relationship, which is part of the reason it hurts so much when they end. We give up a part of ourselves and then we wonder, whether we can ever get that part of ourselves back again.

The simple answer is that you can. Being single gives you a great chance to explore your interests and likes. It gives you an opportunity to rediscover yourself without it having a negative impact on anybody and more importantly, it gives you a chance to rediscover the person who your ex originally fell in love with.

If you want him to miss you, then you need to give him something worth missing. You need to show him how great you are on your own and how much you care about yourself.

In conclusion

Break ups aren’t easy and that fact is all the more true now, thanks to social media. It can be a really painful experience logging onto your profile to discover that you ex has been having seemingly the time of their lives, whilst you’ve been locked up at home missing them, but you don’t have to settle for that. You don’t have to be one of those people who watches from afar, as their ex takes off and never looks back.

If you truly believe that your ex should be in your life, then you need to start focusing on the life that you have to offer. You need to love yourself with such ferocity that anybody else’s love is just the cream on the pie. You are your own pie. Once you start thinking of yourself like that, the people around you will notice and he will start to miss you.

It’s also incredibly important to remember that anger can lead you down roads that have no turn around point. Sure, you may be hurting, he may have gone back on everything he ever said, he may be out there right now having the time of his life, but that doesn’t give you the right to be bitter. If you start lashing out because of your hurt, then you will push him away much further than you’ll ever be able to reach and there isn’t any coming back from that.
The Language of Desire

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Spider Bites, Symptoms, Causes and Treatment

More than 45,000 spider species have been identified globally, of which less than 30 have been classified dangerous. This accounts for less than 1% harmful spiders worldwide, so humans are safe from the majority of them. The severity of the poison the dangerous ones carry vary from species to species. The panels below show four common dangerous ones that are widely distributed.

Spider Bites, Symptoms, Causes and Treatment

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The Brown Recluse or Violin Spider

This spider is reddish brown with violin-shaped dark marking in the chest area. They are usually between 6 and 20 mm. The brown recluse is found in the USA and other parts of the world, including West Africa. They live in quite places such as attics and sheds. They are usually not aggressive but will bite when threatened. The bitten effect is initially painless but over a course of about 8 hours, a target lesion or bruise occurs in the area and enlarge progressively. This occurs as a result of introducing poison (venom) through its long, sharp teeth called fangs into the bitten area of the skin.  If not treated soon, it can damage the surrounding tissue, causing fever, headache, and chills. In addition, there could be a sharp pain like bee-sting, body aches, nausea, rashes and stomach upset.

The Tarantula or Baboon Spider

The Tarantulas are rust brown to orange colored spiders, also called baboon spider in Africa. They are about 11.4 to 28 cm in length. They are nocturnal spiders which dig burrows underneath stones and live there, patiently awaiting their prey. Their venoms are neurotoxic, which means that when they bite, the poison affects the nervous system and can damage it with time. Their bites produce sharp pain and remain itchy for about 5 days. The victim may vomit and have difficulties in walking.

The Black Widow Spider

These spiders are normally shiny black in appearance, with hourglass markings (contractions) on their abdomen which come in different colors, ranging from yellowish through orange to red.  They are about 12.7 to 38 mm in length. They live in loft or storage places and sheds. They are considered the most poisonous in North America, with venom stronger than what will be found in most dangerous snakes. The fangs (long, sharp teeth) are long so they can penetrate deep into the skin upon biting to discharge the strong poison.  This can cause severe abdominal pain, weakness, muscle rigidity and excessive sweating.

The Huntsman or Rain Spider

These spiders are brown in color and may have stripes. They are very widely distributed. They appear somewhat very terrifying but in reality, they are not aggressive. They are about 25-30 mm in length, with smooth and plump bodies. They prefer to live in forests and shafts. They hunt at night and hide in the daytime. They are normally found in homes at summertime. They are called rain spiders because, in certain parts of Africa, they are more visible and become more active before and after rainfall. When they bite, the victims experience swelling, pain in the bitten area and headache. In addition, nausea and rapid heartbeat have been reported. Their venoms are known to be relatively weak so when they bite, the victim can overcome the effects between 5-7 days.

What are my treatment options for a dangerous spider bite?

  • Keep the bite area clean to avoid infection by using mild soap and water and wiping with a clean towel or cloth.
  • Reduce pain and swelling by applying an ice pack wrapped in a small
  • If a leg or an arm area was bitten by the spider, elevate it to avoid edema (swollen or inflammation from the injury).
  • Apply antibiotic ointment in the area if noticed the wound is becoming infected.
  • If experiencing pains, take over-the-counter pain relievers such as Advil or Tylenol.
  • Some bites can produce skin lesions and allergic reactions such as itching and inflammation. If this occurred antihistamine ointment like Benadryl can be applied to the wounded area.
  • If the victim’s tetanus shot is more than 5 years old, he may need a booster.

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References

  1. John P. Rafferty. 9 of the World’s Deadliest Spiders. Encyclopædia Britannica Online. Retrieved 24 July 2016, from https://www.britannica.com/list/9-of-the-worlds-deadliest-spiders
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What You Need To Know About Fibromyalgia

What is Fibromyalgia and what symptoms should one expect?

Fibromyalgia is a universal, chronic (long-lasting) muscle and joint pain, making the patient feel weak and tired. Since pains are felt throughout the body, the targeted areas of hurt are known as “tender points” indicated with little red circles of the two human models below.  Tender points include which neck, shoulder, upper body, back, hips, arms and legs regions.  Other symptoms are sleeping disturbances, muscle rigidity, memory impairment, headaches and painful menstrual cycles. In addition, there are effects of temperature, sound and bright light sensitivities. It is a hereditary disorder which runs in affected families. Scientists have reported that the condition affects 10 million Americans alone at the age 18 years and older. Unfortunately, more women are affected than men; statistics show that 80-90% of cases are women and most of them are around middle age, that is, between 40 and 60 years.

The Red Spots show Joint and Muscle areas affected  (Tender Points) in Fibromyalgia

Fibromyalgia Signs

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What are the Causes of Fibromyalgia?

  • Fibromyalgia can occur by itself, but any factors that will bring about stressful events such as prolong illness or repetitive injuries can contribute to the illness.
  • People who suffer from diseases like arthritis and lupus are more susceptible to the condition.

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What are treatment and management options for Fibromyalgia?

  • You should consult your doctor and describe your symptoms. Usually, you would be referred to a Joint and Muscle Pains Specialist for proper diagnosis and treatment.
  • Other healthcare practitioners such as physiotherapists are involved in routine physical activities training.
  • Regular exercise is the most effective treatment. For example, walking and lifting light weights.
  • Getting enough and comfortable sleep can minimize the pain. Sleeping can be managed by avoiding caffeine-containing drinks in the evenings, in particular, close to bedtime, avoiding daytime nap and not leaving the lights on in your bedroom at nights.
  • Relaxation exercises, massage and breathing techniques help to ease the pain.
  • Eating well-balanced meals with good nutritional values will strengthen the body.
  • Cognitive behavioral therapy with a group help you feel you are not alone and stop you from negative thoughts that could weigh you down.
  • Joining a support group is an opportunity to meet with others and share experiences, ideas, tips for management and treatment. It helps you to be positive and minimize worries about your condition.
  • There are specific, useful prescribed pain and anti-depressant medications such as tramadol and acetaminophen combination tablets, milnacipran, pregabalin, duloxetine.
  • It is advisable to continue to work, even if you could not do full time, to enable you to use your muscles and joints and to prevent you from losing your aspirations in life, as retiring will make you feel lonely and low-spirited.

Information and support

The best information you can find regarding Fibromyalgia is available in the form of support groups and communities. There you can learn more from real people who are going through similar condition and share their experience. You can visit Fibromyalgia Action UK or This Online Community for information and support.

References

  1. Bennett RM1, Jones J, Turk DC, et al. An internet survey of 2,596 people with fibromyalgia. BMC Musculoskelet Disord.; 8:1-11, 2007.
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