Generally no one plans to be single forever, sometimes it happens other things it evolves without us taking notice or even paying attention. So do you think you are on the road to be single forever? Chances are you’re otherwise you won’t be reading this article right now. While there is totally nothing wrong with be single forever, especially when it’s what you desire and want and there are reasons why being single is awesome, however if you really don’t plan on being single for the rest of your life or you dread it, then you need to do something about it right now.
We have identify 15 signs or trait of people who end up being single forever posses. While this is in no way a judgment or something you should feel ashamed about, identifying this trait and doing something about will put you in the part of meeting and hooking up to your forever together. So will you end up single forever? Here are 15 reason why.
1. You Still Have a Thing For Your Married EX (Single Forever Sign).
One of the reason most people remain single for a very long time is their inability to move on after a failed relationship. So is there an ex in your life that you still have feelings for even though he is married and even have kids? Not letting go of a failed relationship can keep you emotional trapped, making it difficult and sometimes impossible to love someone else or even decide to see some other people.
If you find yourself in this situation and you are still in communication with your ex, then it’s time to cut him loose. He has moved on, so should you. Stop communicating with him, unfriend him on the various social media and stop going to his page to check up what his life is up to and if he is miserable without you because he certainly is not and you deserve a better life. It’s time to move on and make yourself available for love else you will remain single forever.
2. Love Happens To You Quickly And Often.
Real love takes a bit of time to starts and longer time to build. While there is love at first sight, if you find yourself often falling in love with a guy because he does something that the other guy didn’t do (like opening the car door) or calling more often then that’s a sign you might end up being single for a long time or forever. Real love is deep rooted in character and substance not just emotion. Falling in and out of love very quickly and often is a sign that you allow temporary emotions govern your decisions.
Relationship is a long term commitment and should be viewed as so. If you want to build a relationship that will last, it’s important that you first take your time to understand what you desire in a man or woman, and then begin to seek that out in any relationship you get into. Don’t be quick to conclude you are in love based on how you feel in a few hours or a few days else you will be setting the pace to remain single forever.
3. You’re Very Anti Social.
Love and relationship requires meeting and knowing people. If you are someone who loves to be alone and keep to yourself all the time, the chances of you getting into a relationship is real and if you don’t do something about it right away then you may end up being single forever.
While it’s important and necessary to have some personal time alone, when it comes to relationship you cannot keep to yourself and build one. There is need to go out, meet new people and get to understand them. There is no way you are going to fall in love with anyone or get them to fall in love with you and stick with you if you are completely anti-social and keep to yourself all the time. So go out, meet new people, interact with them and you may just find your soul mate faster than you can imagine.
4. You’re Emotional Unbalance or Completely Unavailable.
No one likes to be around emotional unbalanced people and certainly in a relationship no one can put up with and emotional unavailable person. While there are many reason why people become unavailable emotionally, if you want to get into a relationship and build one, it’s important for you to deal with this and become available.
Love feeds on emotion, without it we are left with nothing but two people who claim to be in a relationship but never quite feeling it. So are you unemotional or not given to love but don’t want to remain single forever? Then start by understanding how you feel and why you feel that way. Here is a good resource on how to deal with emotional unavailability
5. You Have Unrealistic Standard and Expectation.
It’s very important to set boundaries, have standard and have your own expectation, however when it comes to relationship and finding love, you have to know where to stop. Love is for two people with different dreams and expectation and not just for one person. If you are the type that believes you have the perfect idea of how things should go and don’t consider the other person then you are most likely going to find yourself single forever.
People don’t want to be judge all the time or feel they have to live up to someone’s else expectation all the time. Set your standard, have your expectation but make sure that first you are doing your best on your own part and second give the other person room to be and do their own best.
6. You Have No Opinion of Your Own and Easily Moved by People’s Opinion.
There is a fact that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, however there are people who just can’t form their own opinion. They constantly feed on what other people feel and want even when it goes against what they want or believe. So are you one of those who look unto others to tell you who you should date or should not date? Who you should love or should not love? then chances are that you will remain single forever if you don’t change.
Relationship requires a great deal of maturity and the first sign of maturity is displayed in one’s ability to form his or her own opinion and make their own decision.
7. You Don’t Think You Deserve Love.
Low self esteem can keep anyone single forever. To love and be loved you need a certain level of confidence and a believe that you truly deserve to love and to be loved back. So if you’re the type that believe love happens to other people but not you, other deserve to be loved and not you then it’s time to snap out of it and give yourself permission to be loved.
You deserve love like everyone else and love is waiting for you to make up your mind. Work on your self esteem today else you will probably remain single forever.
Why You’re Still Single And May Remain Single Forever.
8. You are Still Waiting For The Perfect Guy/Lady.
There is really nothing wrong with waiting for your Mr Right or your Mrs Right. However there is a difference between waiting for the right person for you and just being picky and unrealistic. If you are one of those single that never finds anyone good enough or handsome enough or rich enough, or qualified enough then you are heading for single forever status. When it comes to relationship, only the basic is the most important, every other thing can come along.
If you’ve been waiting for the perfect guy for years while ignoring the seemingly imperfect guy then this is the reason you are still single and might soon become the reason why you will remain single forever. There is no one Mr Right or Mrs Right out there, we all have growing up to do and relationship gives room for that.
9. You Think If It’s Not on Social Media It’s Not Love.
Social media has brought tremendous socialization to our lives, it has connected us to old friends and given us the platform to meet and make new friends. However it is important to know that social media is just social media and it’s not a measure of how well you are doing or how good your relationship is. If you are the type that believes in posting your love game on social media and feeding on people’s comments on it then you are probably going to remain single for a long time. The reason for this is that social media love is never real and like every thing that it’s not real, it never last.
Love does not need social media to be validated and you can’t have a meaningful relationship if you believe it has to be on social media. So if you don’t want to remain single forever then quit obsessing about other people’s social media love.
10. You Think Everyone is like Your EX.
Sometimes love hurts, however we must not allow such hurt hold us down from true love. That someone treated your badly and never appreciated you does not mean every other person you meet is going to treat you same way. Thinking everyone is like your ex and it’s going to treat you same would hold you back from true love and ensure you remain single forever. Let go and embrace a new future, for all you care your ex is probably happy with someone else.
11. You’re very far from reality.
One thing that keeps people single for a long time is fantasies. If you have created a fantasy relationship that is void of reality or your prevailing circumstance then you are most likely single and will remain single forever if you don’t change that. There is no Cinderella story for everyone and the earlier you realize that love happens for everyone in a different way the better. Drop those fantasies and embrace love the way it comes to you.
12. You are Selfish and don’t Love to Share.
Love is all about sharing, so if you are the type that don’t like sharing and completely frowns at it then getting into a relationship will be hard for you. No one likes to be associated with a selfish person and selfish people don’t like to be in a situation that requires them to share. So if you don’t like sharing, it’s most likely the reason why you are still single and may remain single forever.
12. You Hate Sex.
Sex is a very important factor for most people in a relationship. It’s essential and sometimes is the major reason why some people go into relationship in the first place. So if you have phobia for sex or totally dislike sex then it might be the reason why you are still single and might remain single forever.
13. You Have Trust Issues and Don’t Want to Deal with It.
Trust like sex is an essential ingredient in any relationship. If you have been hurt in the past by someone you truly love and as a result develop trust issues when it comes to relationship, it might be difficult getting into a new relationship unless you address your trust issues and deal with it. Relationship especially a healthy relationship requires that you let go of the past and trust your partner. Anything short of that will leave you staying away from relationship all together and staying single forever.
14. You Think Relationship is all about Sex.
Yes sex is very important but there is more to relationship than just sex. If you find yourself thinking relationship is all about sex, you will always end up with the wrong partner and that will lead to series of unhappy event and ultimately you deciding to stay away from relationship and remain single.
15. You Don’t Want to be in a Relationship.
Not everyone wants to be in a relationship. So you might be single by choice and remain single because you chose to and that’s totally okay. Enjoy your singleness and whenever you decide to go into a relationship, know that love still exist and is waiting for you.